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Saturday, September 3, 2016

FBI releases more documents from Clinton email investigation

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On Sept. 2, the FBI released more email records (click the link to view documents) from the Hillary Clinton email investigation. THe documents are a summary of former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton’s July 2, 2016 interview with the FBI concerning allegations that classified information was improperly stored or transmitted on a personal e-mail server she used during her tenure, as well as a factual summary of the FBI’s investigation into this matter. The FBI said they are  making these materials available to the public in the interest of transparency and in response to numerous Freedom of Information Act (FOIA) requests. 
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Friday, September 2, 2016

Who will moderate the 2016 presidential and vice presidential debates?

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The moderators for the upcoming presidential debates have been announced.

Starting on Mon., September 26, Lester Holt of NBC Nightly News will moderate the first debate at Hofstra University.

CNN's Andersen Cooper and ABC's Martha Raddatz will co-moderate the second debate on Tues., October 9.  On Sun., October 19 Chris Wallace of FOX will guide the questions during the final debate between presidential hopefuls Hillary Clinton (D) and Donald Trump (R) in Las Vegas.

Elaine Quijano of CBS News will also serve as moderator on October 4, during the debate between vice-presidential candidates Tim Kianeand Mike Pence.
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"OLYMPIC PRIDE, AMERICAN PREJUDICE" CELEBRATES 80TH ANNIVERSARY OF THE NYC TICKER TAPE PARADE WELCOMING THE RETURN HOME OF 1936 OLYMPIC ATHLETES

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On September 3, 1936, New York City welcomed home America's Olympic athletes from the 1936 games in Berlin with a festive ticker tape parade. Those athletes included Jesse Owens - who won 4 gold medals in one day -- and 17 other black Americans who competed for their country. 

This weekend, go behind this compelling, never before seen story by ordering "Olympic Pride, American Prejudice" on Xfinity Streampix -- available until September 4.
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2016 VMAs winners and highlights

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Beyoncé'S "FORMATION" WINS "VIDEO OF THE YEAR"
"Lemonade" Takes Home Eight Moonmen in Total;Beyoncé Recreates Groundbreaking Visual Album with Surprise Performance Michael Jackson Video Vanguard Award Winner RihannaElectrifies Madison Square Garden with Career-Spanning Four-Act Performance

 NEW YORK, NY  – Beyoncé's groundbreaking visual album "Lemonade" won eight Moonmen, including "Video of the Year" for "Formation," at the 2016 "MTV Video Music Awards," which aired live tonight from New York's famed Madison Square Garden.   The global megastar surprised the audience with a jaw-dropping "Lemonade" medley that recreated the stunning imagery of the visual album.  Michael Jackson Video Vanguard Award-winner Rihanna dazzled with a career-spanning four-act performance – including an electrifying opening dance medley and a trio of stirring ballads to close – before accepting the VMAs highest honor with a heartfelt tribute by Drake.
Kanye West made a special appearance to deliver a meditation on fame before introducing the steamy and surreal video for "Fade," starring actress and GOOD Music recording artist Teyana Taylor and her fiancée, the Cleveland Cavaliers' Iman Shumpert.  Future tore through a blistering performance of his 2015 hit "F**k Up Some Commas," after being introduced by legendary Olympian Michael Phelps, who revealed he'd been listening to Future in the meme-launching photo of him in Rio. Britney Spears made a triumphant return to the VMA stage with a soaring performance of her G-Eazy collaboration "Make Me…" 
The following is a complete list of winners and performances:
WINNERS
VIDEO OF THE YEAR
Beyoncé – "Formation"
Director: Melina Matsoukas

MICHAEL JACKSON VIDEO VANGUARD AWARD
Rihanna

BEST FEMALE VIDEO
Beyoncé – "Hold Up"
Director: Jonas Åkerlund, Beyoncé Knowles Carter

BEST MALE VIDEO
Calvin Harris ft. Rihanna – "This Is What You Came For"
Director: Emil Nava

BEST COLLABORATION
Fifth Harmony ft. Ty Dolla $ign – "Work From Home"
Director: Director X

BEST HIP HOP VIDEO
Drake – "Hotline Bling"
Director: Director X

BEST POP VIDEO
Beyoncé – "Formation"
Director: Melina Matsoukas

BEST ROCK VIDEO
twenty one pilots – "Heathens"
Director: Andrew Donoho

BEST ELECTRONIC VIDEO
Calvin Harris & Disciples – "How Deep Is Your Love"
Director: Emil Nava

BREAKTHROUGH LONG-FORM VIDEO
Beyoncé – Lemonade

BEST NEW ARTIST
Presented by Taco Bell®
DNCE

SONG OF SUMMER
Presented by Verizon
Fifth Harmony featuring Fetty Wap – "All In My Head (Flex)"

PROFESSIONAL CATEGORIES
Presented by Orbit® Gum

BEST ART DIRECTION
David Bowie – "Blackstar"
Production Designer: Jan Houllevigue

BEST CHOREOGRAPHY
Beyoncé – "Formation"
Choreographer: Chris Grant, JaQuel Knight, Dana Foglia

BEST DIRECTION
Beyoncé – "Formation"
Director: Melina Matsoukas

BEST CINEMATOGRAPHY
Beyoncé – "Formation"
Cinematographer: Malik Sayeed

BEST EDITING
Beyoncé – "Formation"
Editor: Jeff Selis

BEST VISUAL EFFECTS
Coldplay – "Up&Up"
VFX Editor: Vania Heymann, Gloria FX

PERFORMANCES

RIHANNA
Dance
 "Don't Stop the Music"
"Only Girl in the World"
"We Found Love"
"Where Have You Been"

Reggae
"Rude Boy"
"What's My Name"
"Work"

Trap
"Needed Me"
"Pour It Up"
"Bitch Better Have My Money"

Ballad
"Stay"
"Diamonds" 
"Love on the Brain"

ARIANA GRANDE & NICKI MINAJ – "Side to Side"

BRITNEY SPEARS FT. G-EAZY – "Make Me"

NICK JONAS FT. TY DOLLA $IGN – "Bacon"

FUTURE – "F*ck Up Some Commas"

Beyoncé
"Pray You Catch Me"
"Hold Up"
"Sorry"
"Don't Hurt Yourself"
 "Formation"

KANYE WEST – Special presentation including world premiere video for "Fade"​

Jesse Ignjatovic/Den of Thieves is the Executive Producer for the 2016 "MTV Video Music Awards."  Garrett English, Erik Flannigan, Sandy Alouete, Lee Lodge and Jen Jones are Executive Producers. Garrett English also serves as Executive in Charge of Production for MTV.  Hamish Hamilton is Director. Wendy Plaut is Executive in Charge of Celebrity Talent.
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Grammy Award-winning Gospel Artist, Tasha Cobbs and International Faith Leader Rev. Dr. Cynthia L. Hale to Lead Congressional Black Caucus Foundation Prayer Breakfast



WASHINGTON,  -- Grammy award-winning singer Tasha Cobbs will headline the Congressional Black Caucus Foundation, Incorporated (CBCF) Annual Prayer Breakfast during the CBCF's 46th Annual Legislative Conference (ALC). International faith leader and senior pastor Rev. Dr. Cynthia L. Hale, of the Ray of Hope Christian Church in Decatur, Ga., will deliver the keynote message. The breakfast is scheduled on Sept. 17 from 7:30 a.m. – 10:00 a.m. at the Walter E. Washington Convention Center in Washington, D.C. Reps. Lacy Clay and Karen Bass are the 2016 honorary co-chairs for ALC.

"The Prayer Breakfast is an opportunity to recalibrate and celebrate the CBCF and our mission, which has guided and inspired our efforts for 40 years," said CBCF president and chief executive officer A. Shuanise Washington. "For more than 30 years, the CBCF has hosted this breakfast during the ALC—as a time to reflect about some of the most pressing issues facing our community. We are grateful for the many years of support from our title sponsor, The Coca-Cola Company, who shares our mission of inspiring future African-American leaders."

"We support the CBCF's work to empower the African-American community because we know that it not only has an impact today, but also on our leaders of tomorrow," said Lori George Billingsley, vice president, Community Relations, Coca-Cola North America.

Tasha Cobbs, who rose to the top of the charts in 2012 with her debut hit single, "Break Every Chain," is a multiple Grammy, Dove and Stellar award-winning artist. In 2015, Cobbs released her sophomore album, "One Place Live," and charted number one on Billboard's Gospel and Christian Albums charts.  
"I am honored to have been selected to deliver my musical ministry to this multi-generational audience," said Tasha Cobbs. "The Congressional Black Caucus represents a sea of change that our ancestors would be proud to see how far we have come." 

Rev. Dr. Cynthia L. Hale was appointed by President Barack Obama to serve on the President's Commission on White House Fellowships. She has served in the ministry for 36 years and has been recognized by the African American Biographies Hall of Fame, the Martin Luther King Board of Preaches of Morehouse College, and the National Urban League.

"It is my honor to share a message of hope, of perseverance, and of triumph," said Rev. Dr. Cynthia L. Hale in anticipation of speaking to the more than 3,000 attendees expected to participate in the breakfast.

Other clergy participating in the program include Rev. Ronald Bobo from the West Side Missionary Baptist Church in St. Louis, Mo., and Imam Talib Shareef from the Nation's Mosque in Washington, DC. Additional musical ministry will be provided by the Royal Priesthood Choir of the Alfred Street Baptist Church from Alexandria, Va.

Proceeds from the Prayer Breakfast benefit the CBCF's fellowship, internship, scholarship and research programs—and the foundation's efforts to eliminate disparities in the African-American community. To purchase tickets to the breakfast and to register for the ALC, visit cbcfinc.org/alc16.
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CBN launches nationwide prayer campaign, 'Pray for America'


VIRGINIA BEACH, Va., -- The Christian Broadcasting Network is launching a 40-day nationwide campaign, asking its viewers and partners to pray for America. Prayer themes of the campaign include repentance, forgiveness, seeking the Lord, unity as a people, and protection and blessing for our nation.

CBN Founder and Chairman Pat Robertson says, "Together, we can change America. An individual who prays and humbles himself before God can change the course of a nation. Your prayers are so important and together we can make an eternal difference. It is time to wake up and recognize the power God has placed in our hands, and give our all to the purposes of God."

"CBN's goal is to ignite a national chorus of prayer for our country," adds CBN CEO, Gordon Robertson, "a movement represented by millions of people from all 50 states, crying out to God in unison during the 40-day Pray for America campaign."

Beginning September 5 through October 14, The 700 Club, CBN's flagship program, will feature a daily prayer for our nation as part of its regular programming.

Supporters can visit PrayforAmerica.com to pledge to pray and receive a free prayer pack. The prayer pack includes a "PRAY" bumper sticker, prayer guide, door hanger, and postcard. In addition, the site will feature national and international CBN staff praying for America, every hour on the hour, throughout the 40 days. Online visitors can pledge to pray, check the progress of the campaign, and also sign up to receive a daily prayer devotion featuring a guided prayer guide for the campaign. 

Visit Facebook.com/700Club for more information on this national event and participants are encouraged to post to social using the following hashtags: #50IN40  #PledgetoPray  #PledgeYourProfile

"Ultimately, our greatest need is not the election of any individual politician to save us, but for us to put our real Savior, Jesus Christ, at the center of our national life again. We need a revival in America," says Gordon Robertson.
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TLC PICKS UP TYLER PERRY'S 'TOO CLOSE TO HOME' FOR ANOTHER SEASON

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Silver Spring, MD - TLC has ordered a second season of its first scripted series, Tyler Perry's TOO CLOSE TO HOME to premiere in 2017. The story of Anna, a young woman who comes face-to-face with her checkered past after an alleged affair with the president, captured viewers and the drama of her return home has helped broaden TLC's audience and brought in new viewers at an even greater rate in its second week.
"Our audience was ready for a move into the scripted space, and TOO CLOSE TO HOME has whet their appetite to see more. More twists, more heartbreak and certainly more of Tyler Perry's notoriously dramatic writing," said Nancy Daniels, President and General Manager, TLC.
Launched in an unprecedented partnership with corporate cousin OWN, Tyler Perry's TOO CLOSE TO HOME reached 4.2 million viewers in its premiere airings across TLC and OWN.
TLC's premiere boasted a nearly 50% increase among Women in L+3 delayed viewing. Also, TOO CLOSE TO HOME's August 22 premiere propelled TLC to its highest-rated Monday in more than a year in all key women demos. On Twitter, TOO CLOSE TO HOME was the #3 drama series in primetime with #TooCloseToHome trending in the U.S. during its east coast premiere.
Coming up this season, Anna (Danielle Savre) must face the past that she so eagerly left behind, and her new reality may prove too much for her to handle. Back in Happy, Alabama, Anna reunites with her controlling mother, Jolene (Trisha Stahl); her sweet yet overburdened sister, Bonnie (Kelly Sullivan); and her drug-addicted sister, Shelby (Brooke Anne Smith). Although she's left behind a mess in D.C., there are serious problems brewing in Happy, and Anna is quickly thrown into the drama. She also has to confront unfinished business with her high school sweetheart, Brody (Brock O'Hurn). Broken and battered, Anna must ultimately seek help and forgiveness from the same people she abandoned for a "better" life. Tyler Perry's TOO CLOSE TO HOME airs Mondays at 9pm ET/PT on TLC.
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Inspirational Motivation: Escaping the traps of life

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Potiphar's wife longed to be intimate with Joseph. Joseph, a slave, refused to lay with the master's wife despite her persistent sexual advances. Each time she pursued him Joseph refused. Potiphar had given Joseph charge over all of his possessions -- everything except his wife. One day when no one else was around she grabbed Joseph's garment asking him to lie with her again. "How can I sin against God?," he asked. He ran away leaving the garment in her hand. She lied to her husband saying the servant Joseph had mocked her, presenting his garment as proof that he had been with her. Potiphar sent Joseph to prison, but while he was in bondage God continued to have mercy on him and caused everything he did to prosper.

On the surface it looked as if Joseph was doomed. Because he honored his heavenly and earthly master, God allowed Joseph to succeed. When we commit our lives to God, no weapon (or trap) formed against us shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

SCRIPTURE REFERENCE
Genesis 39
19 So it was, when his master heard the words which his wife spoke to him, saying, “Your servant did to me after this manner,” that his anger was aroused. 20 Then Joseph’s master took him and put him into the prison, a place where the king’s prisoners were confined. And he was there in the prison. 21 But the Lord was with Joseph and showed him mercy, and He gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison. 22 And the keeper of the prison committed to Joseph’s hand all the prisoners who were in the prison; whatever they did there, it was his doing. 23 The keeper of the prison did not look into anything that was under Joseph’s authority,[a] because the Lord was with him; and whatever he did, the Lord made it prosper.
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Thursday, September 1, 2016

The Fallen and Wounded Soldiers Fund to Receive All Proceeds from September 7th Show at Ann Arbor Comedy Showcase, Featuring 17 Hilarious Michigan Comedians

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ROYAL OAK, Mich., Sept. 1, 2016  -- The Fallen and Wounded Soldiers Fund (FWSF), a Livonia, Michigan-based 501(c) nonprofit dedicated to assisting U.S. soldiers and their families, announced today that it will receive all proceeds from the September 7, 2016 show at the Ann Arbor Comedy Showcase.

The benefit will feature 17 popular Michigan comedians, many of which can be seen on Comedy Central and FOX's Laughs, or heard on Sirius/XM Satellite Radio. The lineup includes Nate Armbruster, Mike Bonner, Jef Brannan, Bill Hildebrandt, Jeff Horste, Robert Jenkins, Carl Johnson, Mark Knope, Dave McDonald, Esther Nevarez, Kris Peters, Bob Phillips, Samantha Rager, Mike Stanley, Owen Thomas, Wes Ward, and Sal Demilio, who will host the event.

"I encourage comedy fans from all over Michigan to come out to the Ann Arbor Comedy Showcase on September 7th to support a fantastic cause," said local funnyman Bob Phillips, a Northville resident. "The comedians are honored to raise money for an awesome organization like The Fallen and Wounded Soldiers Fund."

The show starts at 8:00 pm. Tickets are $15, and every dollar goes directly to helping soldiers in financial need. To purchase tickets, call 734-996-9080, or visit www.aacomedy.com. Veterans receive free admission to the show.

"The Ann Arbor Comedy Showcase is proud to support our military veterans," said Ann Arbor Comedy Showcase co-owners Roger Feeny and Claudia Mulcare-Neeb. "All veterans are welcome to attend this fun event, free-of-charge."

Established in 2006, the FWSF is committed to helping Michigan veterans who return from campaigns in Iraq and Afghanistan and find themselves in need of financial support and assistance in a variety of areas, from medical expenses to housing costs. The FWSF is an all-volunteer organization whose members are a diverse collection of concerned people from Michigan's business and private sectors. For more information on the FWSF, please visit www.fwsf.org.
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Author Sam Jane Brown Asks is Obama the Antichrist and Will the United Nations Bring the End of Religion?

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Controversial Christian Thriller "Forgotten Word" Offers a Perspective
NEW YORK, Sept. 1, 2016  -- Sam Jane Brown's popular but highly controversial book, "Forgotten Word," offers a perspective on a serious question being addressed in Christian circles worldwide: "Is Barack Hussein Obama the Antichrist?" The book, which explores the unusual possibility that Christ, in the Second Coming, will return as a woman, touches on the Obama-as-Antichrist issue.

"This book breaks down barriers to the understanding of Christianity," said Brown. "It's been widely vilified for this reason, but you know what? I'm glad. I'm glad the book got people to question their assumptions. As for Obama being the Antichrist, you'll have to read the book to see the connection, but it's definitely there."

"Forgotten Word's" allusions to a major political figure in the West being the Antichrist resonate deeply with broadly held opinions in the United States. Research by Public Policy Polling reveals that no fewer than one in five members of the Republican Party think Obama is the Antichrist. Why? They cite Obama's provocative, anti-Christian stances on abortion and gay rights. As the President who oversaw the emergence of gay marriage in the US, Obama is understood to be an Apostle of anti-Christian values and a harbinger of the End of Times.

Not everyone in the Christian establishment agrees, though speculation does range widely on the issue. The noted Pastor Robert Jeffress expressed his opinion, saying, "Although President Obama is certainly not the Antichrist, his policies are paving the way for the Antichrist…the fact that he was able to propose such a sweeping change in God's law and still win re-election by a comfortable margin illustrates how a future world leader will be able to oppose God's laws without any repercussions."

The Antichrist is understood in Christianity to be a "False Messiah," an evil being who will claim erroneously to be the Christ. The term Antichrist is found in the New Testament. According to Scripture, Jesus will face the Antichrist during the Second Coming. At the time, the Antichrist will be regarded as the greatest False Messiah in Christianity.

"Forgotten Word" takes places amid the world of high intrigue in the church. It begins with the murder of Catholic priests. These events begin the telling the story of the impending Second Coming. Zena McGrath, an international detective, is tasked with solving the murders. She meets a mysterious priest in the Vatican during her investigation. Then, following the trail to New York, she becomes aware of an evil presence following her. Ultimately, she goes to the Holy Land as the perpetrators of the crime are revealed. The book culminates in a climactic Second Coming, in which the "Christ" figure is a woman.

"Forgotten Word" deals with issues of religion and power. In this context, an American president has great sway over whether American society will live by Christian values or not. In the case of Obama, as critics observe, he has abandoned any pretense of Christian sensibilities by embracing all that is loathsome to the Christian way of life. Obama's policies are in line with prophecies that predict that society will steadily – and willfully – disintegrate into sinfulness before the Second Coming.

Readers have praised "Forgotten Word" not only as an engaging mystery that is also a thought-provoking read. The book has raised angry denouncements from certain religious voices, who complain that it is sacrilegious to consider that Jesus will return to the world as a woman. Forgotten Word is soon to be a feature movie, according to the press release.
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SCOTUS grants big voting rights win to North Carolina voters

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By Mona Austin

While presidential candidates are voraciously courting the Black vote, the very voting rights of African Americans have been under fierce attack.  

On Wednesday, Civil Rights groups in swing state North Carolina saw victory. The U.S. Supreme Court denied reinstating a previous provision that required North Carolina voters to show ID at polling places on the basis that the law targeted and discriminated against African Americans. The Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals found that North Carolina Republicans targeted African Americans with almost "surgical precision." Forms of ID held disproportionately by white were found to be accepted more than IDs carried by Blacks.  

In 2013 key parts of the 1965 Voting Rights Act dealing with ballot access were struck down, leaving disenfranchised, minority voters at risk for a range of discriminatory practices. The High Court remedied potential voter fraud with deference to a previous lower court ruling in Richmond, VA this year, in a 4-4 split decision. According to the New York Times, early voting, same day registration, pre-registration of some teenagers , and a ban on counting votes cast in the wrong precinct will be protected under the ruling.

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Wednesday, August 31, 2016

We will fight to make the American Dream a reality for everyone (Op-ed)

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By Tim Kaine

Earlier this summer, I had a chance to meet with the Orellanas, a family from Bolivia who made a home in Virginia. Wilson Orellana works for a company providing transportation for Americans with disabilities, and his wife, Roxana is an active community member who teaches Spanish to children and helps lead the local middle school’s PTA. Their two daughters, Rebeca and Marisol, worked hard in school, and Rebeca is now an engineering honors student in college.

They’re rightly proud of the life they have built for themselves. But as we spoke, they told me how terrified they were that their family would be torn apart because of their mixed status.

The Orellanas are one of so many families in America that were eligible for President Obama’s executive actions on immigration – Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA) and Deferred Action for Parents of Americans (DAPA). Rebeca, who arrived in America as a child, is protected from deportation and able to pursue her dreams thanks to DACA. But for Wilson and Roxana, who wanted to stop living in fear, and more fully participate in our society, the future remains uncertain.

When we met, they were anxiously awaiting the Supreme Court’s decision on DAPA. Hillary and I believe that President Obama was well within his legal authority when he issued these actions. But now, unfortunately, the Supreme Court’s deadlocked ruling has thrown millions of families like the Orellanas back into uncertainty.

We should be doing everything we can to keep families like theirs together – not threatening them with deportation or breaking them apart. After all, they’re our friends, neighbors and classmates. They enrich our communities and contribute to our economy.

Hillary Clinton and I will continue to defend DACA and DAPA, and we’ll do everything possible under the law create a straightforward system for folks with sympathetic cases to make their case and be eligible for deferred action too.

These policies are critical, but we know that to truly fix our broken immigration system we need to pass comprehensive immigration reform. The majority of Americans support comprehensive reform not just because it’s the right thing to do – but because they know it will also strengthen our families, our economy, and our country.

We’ve waited long enough. In our first 100 days in office, Hillary and I will put comprehensive reform legislation before Congress that will include a pathway to citizenship, better border security, and addressing family visa backlog. It will enable our country to be what it’s always been – a place where people from around the world can come to start new businesses, pursue their dreams, apply their talents to American growth and innovation.

This is a very different approach than what Donald Trump has proposed. Not only does he not support comprehensive reform, but he’s threatened to send out a deportation force to round up 16 million people and kick them out of our country. Donald looks at immigrants and calls them “rapists” and “murderers.” And he even supports ending birthright citizenship – one of the basic American principles that if you’re born here, you belong here.

When I was in law school, I took a year off to volunteer in El Progreso, Honduras as a Jesuit missionary. The local community embraced me, and the values I learned from my Honduran community are the same values I see in our Latino community here in America: faith, family and hard work.

These are the very same values that built this nation. In America, we don’t build walls – we build bridges. Our shared values bring us together, and make us stronger. So we must not allow Donald Trump to create a false image of immigrants, and tear down everything this country stands for.

I see that first-hand whenever I visit a naturalization service. I’ve heard many immigrants share their moving stories about what inspired them to become Americans, and I’ve watched as each one raised their right hand and was sworn in as a naturalized citizen. Let me tell you – it’s one of the most powerful things I’ve ever seen. Hearing them always brings a smile to my face and a tear to every eye in the room. Anybody who loves America that much deserves to be here.

There’s a saying I learned in Honduras: Adelante, no atrás.

We need to go forward, not backward.

We have our work cut out for us, but if Hillary and I have the honor of serving as your President and Vice President, we’ll keep pressing forward – not backward – and keep fighting to make the American Dream a reality for everyone.
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Recgonize the friends that are worth keeping versus the ones worth letting go

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By Mona Austin

Sophia Nelson (author of "Woman Code") offered excellent advice on which friends to keep and which ones to let go in a recent presentation at the Merge Summit in Los Angeles. One of life's heaviest burdens is carrying relationship baggage, as many of us are faced with the challenge of when or how to let go of people in our lives who  are not good for us, but the greater challenge is recognizing  the enemy -- when she is your wing woman.  In plain English, the author laid out what type of friend were keepers.

Nelson said, in her experiences, the people who hurt her were once a part of her inner circle and they always started out as people who admired her, but jealously was lurking inside of them. 

Personally, I have experienced the treatment Nelson described.  Many of the people who frequently complimented me and praised me, I learned the hard way, secretly wanted to out-do me or envied me. I did not know it at the time, but their "support" was fueled by jealousy and eventually something was said or done that revealed the truth and our relationship soured. Some of them were not jealous at all, however. They adhered to a belief system that said, "if I am happy for someone else maybe their blessings will rub off on me" or that if you are successful you should help them rise to the top too. (More on that later.) Either way, friends who can not be supportive without wanting something are frenemies.  My take away from her talk is that admiration and envy are next door neighbors.

Why not be happy for someone without wanting anything? 

You'd be surprised that individuals with such mentalities may exist in your family too. You can't choose your family members, but when they are not genuinely interested in you versus what you can do for them you can choose not to invest time in them.  Invest time in no one who has shown you they are not the genuine article,i.e., fake friends.  Nelson's advice is to find yourself some Mark Chapter 2 friends. They are not jealous, envious,back-biting. They are there when you are up or down.

True friends only want what's best for you. Nothing more. Those are the ones you want to keep. The rest are doing you favor when they walk away.
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